How a simple compliment can boost your well-being

Telling a stranger you like their hat…

Affirming a friend’s listening skills…

Praising your partner’s cooking…

  These seem like simple gestures—and they are. But they’re surprisingly powerful. A single compliment makes the receiver feel valued. It also benefits the giver.

The science behind compliments

  Giving compliments is one form of “prosocial” behavior. These are actions that help others. They contribute to good feelings and create bonds with others. And they have science-backed benefits, including:

• Improved mood: Being kind releases feel-good hormones. 

• Less stress: They can buffer feelings of anxiety.

• Overall satisfaction: It’s a virtuous cycle. Doing good makes you feel good. When you feel good, you’re more likely to do good.  
   

Giving a compliment is like giving a gift. Bonus: It costs you nothing! One study on the role of compliments in relationships calls them “verbal treats.” Giving them activates the brain’s reward and empathy centers. 
 
People may feel awkward about giving compliments. Some worry that the receiver will not know what to say. Don’t let fear get in your way! Research shows this risk is low. People are usually glad to get a compliment.  

Simple steps to giving a compliment 

Giving a compliment is an easy way to improve your well-being. Here’s how you can make compliments part of your life:

• Be genuine: Say things you mean.

• Be specific: Name the traits or actions that you are praising.

• Be present: Smile and make eye contact. 
   

To experience (and share) the benefits of compliments, start today. Give someone a sincere, specific compliment. The more you do it, the easier and more rewarding it can become.